Let’s get to know Epictetus (c. 50 – 135 AD) was a Greek Stoic philosopher. He was born a slave at Hierapolis, Phrygia (present day Pamukkale, Turkey) and lived in Rome until his banishment, when he went to Nicopolis in northwestern Greece for the rest of his life. His teachings were written down and published by his pupil Arrian in his Discourses and Enchiridion.
Epictetus taught that philosophy is a way of life and not just a theoretical discipline. To Epictetus, all external events are beyond our control; we should accept calmly and dispassionately whatever happens. However, individuals are responsible for their own actions, which they can examine and control through rigorous self-discipline.
“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
This describes stoic philosophy very well. You can change the things that happen to you, they happened, and they will happen without your consent. Good news though, you can change how those things will impact you.
“You are what you reportedly do.” If you are always mad because something happened to you, you are not going to be the person, you desire to be. I believe to become the person you want to be, you have to accept that a lot of things in life will not go as planned. Sometimes it will feel like as if the universe is fighting you. It is not.
If you do react in a good way to everything the universe throws at you, you will grow as a person and you will become this desirable person you always wanted to be.
It takes hard work, patience, and willpower to do as Epictetus told as many years ago.